Here are five really quick tips on
dealing with difficult people:
1. Perspective: The most difficult people teach us
the biggest lessons. Think about playing a videogame with the setting on easy.
You beat the game every time and you are never really challenged. Now think
about playing with the hard setting. It’s a pain in the ass but, before you
know it, your skills improve and you become a Ninja Master, Level: Expert.
People are no different. Easy people to deal with keep you in your comfort
zone. Difficult people shake things up a bit and you have to grow as a person
in order to advance past it. Having this perspective will keep you from
getting overly mad. If you really become a Jedi Master you will actually appreciate
the challenge. The force is strong with this one.
2. Look inside yourself: There is a reason why this person
gets to you. There is a reason why this particular person pushes every button
and hits every nerve in your body. This is psychological. After it is all
said and done, who is getting upset? Who is getting mad as hell and letting
this person affect our thoughts and ability to get awesome things done? The
answer is YOU. Learning to look inside yourself and at how this
person is making you feel can make the emotions elementary. Why beat yourself
up?
4. Delete the person from your life: Listen, if everything else fails and
this person is a constant pain in the ass, the only common-sense move is to get
rid of them. I do not care if they are your “best friend” or your cousin. If
it’s that much of an issue, you need to move on and move out. One small
change like this and everything else in your life may get better.
5. Accept it: If
number 4 is in effect, then you need to accept it. The quicker you accept the
loss, the quicker you can move on. Crappy people are like a cancer. Cut it off
before it becomes malignant. I know you want to try your hardest to change this
person and you may have known them for years and years. News flash: people do
NOT change. If a person sucks, then they suck and if you think you can get them
not to suck, you are a sucker.
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